Why Don't I fit In?

Have you ever asked yourself that painful question?  Why don't I fit in, with this family, my friends, my coworkers?  I spent a lot of years asking that very question and I now I have found the answer. 

But first a little background:

My mom and big sister are such powerful females.  They enjoy being in charge and telling others what to do.  When someone crosses them they quickly call them out and get the real issues on the table.  If a decision needs to be made, each of them can sort through the options, choose which details are just fluff and throw those out, then come up with the best solution to any problem.  People constantly seek their advice and validate their wisdom.  And, if you needed something done at lightning speed, they will not let you down.  Concisely stated, these women are POWERHOUSES!
 
Then, there is me! 

I am the odd ball.  As I was growing up it felt like when God was handing out all of the important traits He ran out just as I reached the front of the line.  I never wanted to be in charge.  That always felt too controversial.   When it came to making decisions, it took me forever as I weighed out all of the options and even then, I second guessed myself obsessively.  No one, I mean no one, ever asked me for advice about anything of any magnitude. And, I have never been a speedy worker, there are just so many distractions, so many people to chat with! 
 
For years I wondered how is it possible that I share the same DNA with these two amazing, take charge women?  They served as my most prominent female examples.  But I felt like I fell short daily. 
 
Just to clarify, they never purposely made me feel small and flawed. These feelings were coming from inside of me.   Mom and Angela were busy charging through life, conquering the next mountain and taking no prisoners. I was dancing through life, not a care in the world, trying to make friends and entertain anyone who would listen.  My focus seemed so trivial in comparison to theirs.  In my own eyes…I felt less valuable.  Have you ever felt that way?
 
The world opened up to me when I read about the four personalities.  Eons ago, Hippocrates said there are four basic personalities walking through life.  Each of us is a mix of these personalities, with one of them being our most dominant.  He taught that there is no advantage to being one over the other. "What? No advantage??" 

I was enthralled, thrilled and hopeful!

"What if, just maybe, fingers crossed, I was not less than….I was just….not the same as?"
 
Hippocrates called these four personalities:  Sanguine, Melancholy, Choleric and Phlegmatic.  (UUUGH!  Those words…so difficult to remember!  They just fell right out of my brain!)  But, I wasn’t deterred by the philosophical jargon and was fired up to go deeper and learn what my problem was.  Maybe I could figure out why I didn’t fit!
 
After digging into the information, I found that I am a Sanguine and my mom and sister are Choleric personalities.  All those years of not feeling like I fit, were correct.  I didn’t fit….in their dominate personality. But, I did fit perfectly in my own.
 
What a revelation!  What a relief!

I’m not flawed.  I’m not less than.  I’m just not exactly like them.  I have value, and you do too. 
 
I knew I wanted to start teaching this information to help people feel more accepted, more confident, more capable and more lovable. I wanted to help others pull back the veil and figure out how to get along with people who basically make them crazy.  I knew this information could be trans-formative.  But those words!! Sanguine, Melancholy, Choleric and Phlegmatic.  They just had no sticky to them.  You know?  They are too easy to forget.
 
If I was going to teach this, I wanted people to be able to easily remember and identify their own personality and the personality of those they work, live and pal around with. 
 
So, when vacuuming the house one day I prayed, “God, I need something people can remember, something simple, something that really makes sense.”  With one final pass over my bedroom floor, the SHOES were born.   I took those hard to remember words and substituted a Shoe for each one.  Now this 2500-year-old concept has new life!  It’s proven, successful and really fun!  I have been teaching this concept with rave reviews for over 15 years.  Marriages have been rescued, courage and self belief have resurfaced, families have become reconciled, jobs have been saved and lives have been enriched.  This stuff truly works!
 
With the birth of the Clown Shoe, All Business Shoe, Combat Boot and House Shoe, you can now simply watch the way a person walks through life and know exactly who you are dealing with.  It is genius, simple, perfect and sticky…because God is at the center of it.  These Shoes are His download into my brain.  (Man I wish I could take the credit….but I am just the instrument.)
 
So, I hope you enjoy taking the test to discover your own Personality Shoes.  Get your copy here!  Just scroll down to the bottom of the web page and fill out the form.
 
You will also receive a FREE GIFT when you download your test.  It is a 5 page white paper titled: YOUR SHOES AT A GLANCE.  It will give you a deeper understanding of who you are and why you act, react and think as you do.  You can download it into your phone and have it on hand to keep you from karate chopping difficult people right in the throat!
 
Be sure to have your friends, coworkers and family members get their copy of the Shoe Test as well. 
 
Taking the test is going to help you discover why you feel you don’t fit. It is very possible that you have been trying to fit into personality Shoes that are not yours to wear.  God has given you a unique pair of your own. 

So simple.  So freeing.  So empowering.
 
To discover your SHOES!  Scroll to the bottom of the web page and sign up to take the test.
 
Walk Boldly in Your SHOES!!
 
Peachy day to ya!
Lori Randall
The Shoe Coach
www.whatshoeareyou.com